I used to see life as divided into two main time zones: working and everything else (learning, having fun, or simply doing what I wanted). I gave my all to my work, but outside of that, I lived without much structure. I did anything I wanted as long as it didn’t break any rules, offend anyone, or harm others. In short, I had no discipline.
Then, I married someone who is the complete opposite, a deeply disciplined person raised in a disciplined family. My in-laws believe that we should manage time—not let time manage us. Discipline, to them, is the key to a good life, including praying on time, waking up and going to bed at consistent hours, and stopping work when it’s time to rest.
These are the values my husband lives by every day. He’s a hardworking professional who dedicates 80% of his time to work, but the remaining 20% is beautifully and purposefully allocated to working out, praying, resting, and managing household chores. There are very few uncontrolled or unconscious activities, even when it’s something he loves, like eating (definitely no careless habits). His discipline is consistent, and he is undoubtedly my role model.
The results speak for themselves: he has a stable, thriving career and is deeply trusted by everyone at work, including his Regional and Local Directors. He’s physically fit, having lost more than 35 kg in a year, and still manages more than 50% of our household chores.
In comparison, while I’ve achieved a fast-track career and significant salary growth, I’ve struggled to maintain my health. I’ve only managed to lose 6 kg over the past year, and my weight fluctuates like a yo-yo. I also contribute less and less to the household.
Now, I see the true yield of discipline, and I can no longer ignore it. My life feels chaotic, and I want to bring it back into order. Discipline, I’ve realized, is a virtue. Witnessing my husband’s example has inspired me to train myself to build discipline—slowly, with intention, and with compassion for myself.
Recognizing the need to change is the first step. I don’t plan to fix everything at once. Instead, I’ll start with a simple, manageable plan to bring calm, order, and progress into my life.
1. Focus on 3 Non-Negotiables Daily
I’ll begin with small, impactful habits that ground my day. These habits will help me feel in control and build momentum.
a. Wake Up and Sleep at the Same Time
- Choose a realistic wake-up time (e.g., 4:30 AM or 5:00 AM) and stick to it.
- Go to bed by 10:00 PM. Start small—not aiming for perfection.
b. Pray On Time
Prayer will be the foundation of my day. It’s stable, calming, and a way to reset my mind and refocus.
c. Move—Just Move—For 20-30 Minutes
- I won’t overcomplicate this.
- I will just walk more, stretch more, or do a light workout I enjoy. I believe any movement will clear my mind and energize me for the day.
2. Create a Simple Daily Routine
The key here is simplicity and consistency. I have created a routine that is easy to follow and gives me a sense of winning.
3. Take One Small Step at a Time
Today, I’ll focus on waking up on time, praying on time, and moving for at least 20 minutes. I won’t aim for a perfect day; my goal is achieving progress, not perfection.
4. Breathe and Simplify My Thoughts
When I feel overwhelmed, I’ll pause and ask myself: “What’s the next smallest step I can take right now?”. Small, intentional steps lead to big changes. I’ll focus on one thing at a time.
5. Be Kind to Myself
Discipline is like a muscle—it takes time to build. If I slip up, I won’t punish myself. Instead, I’ll acknowledge it, reset, and gently return to my plan.
How about you? Let’s start small. What’s the first thing you can commit to today? 🙂
The Hayyan Chronicle 
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